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What is Ramadan? Fasting 2009

What is Ramadan? Fasting 2009

By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Shazia_Shah]Shazia Shah

Ramadan is the act when Muslims all over the world must ritually fast and abstain from certain acts or foods and liquids which are prohibited during this holy time of year. Fasting is one of the five pillars of Islam which all Muslims are expected to follow, the other four pillars of Islam are Faith (Shahadah); Prayer (Salah), Charitable Giving (Zakah), and the holy Pilgrimage to Makkah (Hajj). Ramadan takes place during the 9th month in the Islamic calendar and will therefore differ from year to year when using the more common 12 month calendar than the Islamic lunar calendar. Ramadan lasts for 29 or 30 days depending on the sighting of the new moon.


Fasting begins from sunrise to sunset. When a Muslim first begins to fast they will tend to wake up before sunrise to eat, this is known as Sehri or Suhoor. Often in Muslim households, there will be a generous breakfast before sunrise, as eating and drinking is not allowed. When sunset approaches and it is nearing the time for the fast to be opened some Muslims will gather to have Iftari parties to open their fasts together. Families come together and even extended families so this is also a great time for get together. It is customary to open your fasts with dates as this was what the Prophet Mohammed (PBH) is said to have eaten to open his fast with.

Fasting is much more than denying yourself food or drinks. It is a time of spiritual reflection and prayer. During this month Muslims will be thinking of others who are less fortunate than themselves, those from all over the world who have extreme difficulty even finding food or are in poverty. Muslims should also spend this time reflecting about their religion and what it means to them. Prayer is important during Ramadan and is used to focus a Muslims spiritual belief towards their God and pray for thanks for all that they have and for others all over the world who are less fortunate as no matter how badly you may feel that your present circumstances may be, there will always be someone worse off.

Some guidelines for fasting during the holy month of Ramadan:


No eating or drinking from sunrise to sunset
No chewing gum
No smoking (or other type of drugs or alcohol which is not permitted any ways in Islam)
No sexual contact
Not allowed for women during menstrual period
Not required of the mentally ill or those of physical ill health
Not partaking in activities which are considered haram
Not required of children until they reach puberty

Helpful advice for fasting during the holy month of Ramadan:



It is advisable to drink plenty of water before starting your fasts
Try to avoid strenuous exercise that could cause you to perspire too much. Without the ability to drink to replenish the liquid lost you will be endangering your health which could cause you to even faint or feel physically unwell. Exercise in the evening after you open your fasts.
Avoid foods such as potato chips (crisps) or other salty or dry foods which could cause you to get very thirsty later in the day
Avoid direct sunlight when possible as perspiration could cause you to get very thirsty or make you faint/ unwell.

When Ramadan has finished and the fasting has ceased, Eid ul Fitr is celebrated. It is anticipated all month and is celebrated differently all over the world but the general feelings are on family and the local religious community. Usually families will gather at the house of the senior member of the family and gifts of cash or clothes are given to the children. As the festivities carry on through out the day and night, this will mark the end of a very special time of the year in the Muslim calendar.

Summary:

Ramadan is the act when Muslims all over the world must ritually fast and abstain from certain acts or foods and liquids which are prohibited during this holy time of year. Fasting is much more than denying yourself food or drinks. It is a time of spiritual reflection and prayer.

Shazia Shah has been a driving force behind the Asian Matrimonial website http://www.asians4asians.com and Muslim Matrimonial website http://www.muslimandsingle.com With Muslim Members from all over the UK and rest of the world.

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What To Do During Recession? – Tips

What To Do During Recession? – Tips

Author: Unknown

I just want to share some tips during recession. I got it from my in-box. I hope these would help us in time of crisis.

Market

1. We all know that the market have slumped

2. We read about the jobless in news paper

3. People talk at least 24 months of recession

4. Early entrants are not getting jobs

5. Companies are closing

6. Sales not picking up

7. Suddenly cash has evaporated from the market

8. Profitability is severely hit

A. I am an Employee

1. I need to keep my job

2. I need to pay EMIs

3. I have a family to run

4. I need to keep working to sustain myself

5. I need to feel secure

6. I need to save a little money for a rainy day.

7. …

B. Basic Don'ts

1. Don't take too much vacation

2. Don't complain

3. Don't waste time gossiping

4. Don't resist transfer

5. Don't resist travel

6. Don't resist salary cut

7. Don't resist extra work load

8. Don't resist extra time in the office if needed

9. Don't don’t change job in this market. It's too risky.

10. Don't ask for promotion, Don't ask for salary increase. If you ask , you may soon not have a job. Remember there are people available with better skill at a lower salary levels.

C. Basic Do's

1. Be punctual to office

2. Ensure you pick up new skills

3. Ensure you deliver as per deadlines

4. Ensure that you contribute to knowledge forum, etc

5. Do something innovative

6. Take training programs

7. Organize team meeting to improve productivity

8. Always be engaged and productive

9. Work doubly hard and save money for your company

10. Remember, you r boss is always right and is the best (recession or no recession)

11. Be cheerful, keep smiling, life goes on.

D. Daily expenses

1. Take stock of your expenses – actually write it down

2. Tick " No need to have" vs "Nice to have"

3. Knock of all " Nice to have expenses" – right now

4. Assuming you don’t have a job. – Plan for cash to service for 24 months. Apparently, this recession will take at least 24 months to come out of sit on cash

5. Other tips to cut expenses

a. Going mall is expensive

b. Good restaurants are expensive

c. Impulsive is expensive

d. Taking flight is expensive

e. Eating out daily is expensive

f. Check services which are not using but have subscribed to

g. Going on vacation is expensive

E. The big loans

1. Home loan and EMI

a. If you own a home and you are living on it and paying EMI, then see if you can partially fore-close it.

2. If you have two homes and paying EMI on both

a. See if you can rent a second home – Don't bother the amount of rent. Rent to get cash flow going. Don't feel bad that the rental is not good enough. Trust me it will soon be a great feeling to rent.

b. If you have enough money, then fore-close a significant part of it if your interest rate is less than bank FD (which I doubt.) then you don't have to fore close.

c. If you think the property have a descent value, then sell it (though it is a buyer's market).

F. Do I buy anything now? Do I invest?

1. Investing in stock and mutual fund?

a. Generate money every month – take a systematic investment plan (about 15% of your salary) keep at low values for the next 24 months.

2. Buy an asset – Buy house/apartment/land?

a. If you have cash and feel secure, this is the great time to buy. you can negotiate hard with builders/developers. Actually you can write your own term of agreement.

· First Preference – buy (always buy small sites, it is easier to dispose. Else farm land is a great option, big land low cost.)

· Second Preference – buy house and land (again buy from known developers.)

· Third preference – Buy Apartment (you always wanted to buy 3-bed/4bed apartment from reputed builders, but could never afford). Now is the right time to ask for free. Some being sold at ridiculous prices.

G. I am looking for a job – What do I do?

1. Enroll to course/training/education as you searching for a job. To enhance your skills.

2. Enroll as a trainee anywhere you can get an opportunity. Most trainees end up getting confirmed employment as a build relationship. In a company.

3. Don’t have reference regarding – city, salary, location, designation, shift etc. just take it and gain experience. It is a first step for a long career.

4. Go through references of people who are already working.

5. During job interviews – the keywords which employers are looking for is “Flexibility”.

6. Agree for any “place, date, time to take job interview.

7. Please improve your communication skills. This is one skill fetches job!

H. These suggestions are tough – Do I live life or not?

1. The new principles – Happiness is inversely proportional to expectations/desires. More the expectations/desires – lesser the happiness and vise versa.

2. Some other ways to live great life.

a. Spend time with family – go for a picnic in a nearby garden.

b. Exercise and walk a lot, drink lot of water.

c. Listen to radio, watch some TV.

d. Visit libraries, read books which you purchase, but never have a chance to open them.

e. Go to friends and place for dinner.

f. Enroll into hobby – music, painting etc.

g. Do social service – start teaching, mentoring

h. Spend more time with your children.

i. Join laughter forum, attend conferences and meet interesting people

j. Go for concert

Don’t worry! What goes down will always go up. Market will rebound. These tips will prepare you to be a winner.

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Long Distance Relationship

“ Long Distance Relationship ”

Long distance relationship (LDR) is an intimate affair of two couples that is geographically separated. Is Long Distance Relationship really work in this modern time? Many couples end up separation. There is small percentage of success cases. And if it does it will be stronger than ever.


There are many challenges in a Long Distance Relationship


* Time difference or time zone, where as there is difficulties in your schedule.
* You can’t monitor each other, trust is required.
* Physical contact is long awaited.
* Loneliness and bored in your feelings.

Here are some tips to keep your love intact

Communication- There should be a constant and two way communications. Before Long distance relationship is not popular due to the form of communication. Lovers communicate through telephone or postal mail. Unlike today Long Distance Relationship is explode because of the advent of the modern technology. Distance and time is no longer a problem. You can receive and send text messages in seconds. You can talk with your love from a cheap mobile phone. Even more exciting, you can make a live video call with your 3G mobile phone. The best part is you can be reached anytime and anywhere. Unless your mobile phone is out of coverage or it is out of service. Internet is also available for cheaper and longer communication. For more convenient you can subscribe for an internet connection in your home. You must have first a laptop or a computer. If this gadget is unavailable, just resort to the traditional medium, telephone cabin or via air mail.

Patience – Couples are separated not by will but rather by choice. For example: you have been assigned by your boss to a new city or country, the worst scenario is that you have been terminated by your company. And your only option is to work abroad in order to cope up with your family needs. Like what happened to most of the Overseas Foreign Worker and Expatriates. It will take a years or more before you will reunite with your partner. Therefore you have to be patience and overcome the test of time.

Trust – There should be transparency in a relationship in order to gain the trust. In a long distance relationship you can’t monitor your partner. You mind have been clouded with bunch of speculations resulting to an argument. Therefore you have to be opened to each other. Tell story about your daily activities, the people you mingle with, the food you eat and the dress you ware. Impart your loneliness and happiness. Inform of your like and dislike. Share your problems. And never keep any secret that will ruin your relationship.

Self Control – is to discipline your emotion and desires to any form of attractions. Temptation is just around the corner. It is like a silent lion that will devour you if you allow. While others grasp it just to satisfy their curiosity and urge. Opposite sex attraction is a common temptation that soured a long distance relationship. You have to draw a line with your peer.

Humility – Relationship often brake up because of pride. It also often leads to selfishness when one person feels superior to another. Apologize for your mistakes. Learn to forgive your lover. And swallow your pride

Faith – is the divine intervention in a long distance relationship. Pray to Lord to give you strength to overcome the call of temptation; give you will power to be patience in any circumstances; avoid idling in your communication and learn trusting one another. Be content and thank the Lord for giving you a partner in life. Pray for each other. A couple that prays together, stays for-ever.

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Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen" (Ephesians 4:29 NIV).

Al Khobar Murder Solved

Al Khobar Murder Solved

Last week, June 29, 2009 ay may balitang gumulantang sa Filipino community dito sa Al Khobar, Saudi Arabia. Dahil sa may napatay na isang Filipina. Ito aya naging usap-usapan sa mga schools at tambayan sa Al Khobar. Ayon sa mga kuwento ay pabakasyon ang nasabing Filipina. Nasundan daw sa kanilang tirahan matapos itong mag papalit ng pera. Ang hinala ay ibang lahi ang may kagagawan nito. Bukod sa pagnanakaw, maraming saksak ay pinagsamantalahan pa. Medyo hindi kredibol ang mga kuwento. Kaya kinabukasan ay naaantay ako ng balita sa Arab News. Habang inaabangan ko ang balitang ito sa News ay nakapagpost na sina Thoughtskoto at Ilonggo sa Disyerto .


Kaninang umaga ay may napublish na sa Arab News solved na ang kaso. Meron pong good news at bad news sa incident na ito. Ang good news po ay nahuli na ang salarin. At ang bad news po ay Filipina din ang may sala. Ang pinaka masakit po nito ay naging kaibigan nya sa loob ng 20 taon. Ayon sa Arab News ay nagkaroon ng argument ang dalawa. Hanggang sa nakakuha ng kutsilyo ang “kaibigan” at ito’y pinagsasaksak. Para sa karagdagan balita ay basahin din sa ABS-CBN.

Napaka hirap isipin na ang kapwa Filipino pa ang kumitil buhay sa isang kaibigan. Kung sa unamang kadahilan at nagawa nya ito ipagdasal natin na sana ay hindi na po maulit ang ganitong incident. At sana manaig sa bawat isa ang kababaan loob upang malutasan ang mga hidwaan ng may kaayusan.

"Taos puso po nakikiramay ang Life Moto family sa pamilya ng nasawi."

"gentleness, and self-control. Against such things there is no law."
*Galatians 5:23*

Fighting Porn Addiction - Refocusing Sexual Energy

Fighting Porn Addiction - Refocusing Sexual Energy

by Michael Porteous

Fighting porn addiction can seem like a battle with your own libido especially if you have been masturbating to online pornography for a long time for a number of reasons:



Anything done for a long time becomes a habit that can be so ingrained into your lifestyle it is hard to shake.You have trained your body to expect sexual reward and the lack of such a reward becomes like a physical craving.
Ease of access means that relief to your frustrations and cravings is so easy to satisfy many continue to give in and do not gain addiction recovery.
Help is hard to come by because the subject is so taboo with most people making this a very lonely addiction.

So what can you do to fight porn addiction and come out on top and in control of your life and sexuality?

One such method that may help is to find a way to refocus your sexual energy. It is too easy to simply say i will do something else when i feel the need to pop online to view pornography but it is a part of the puzzle. The real results come from changing your mental addiction triggers to be positive rather than negative (being excessive porn and masturbation). When you discover what triggers your episodes online find something you can do to take your mind off it and stick to that, write it down and make it a new habit. It could be that you are depressed or sad which would require something targeting that particular trigger. It may be that you have sexually frustrating relationship issues which would require an approach aimed at solving that problem. One of the biggest problems though is boredom for many people and when online it is such an easy way to spend time despite the problems with sexuality that porn is known to cause .. if this is the case the best way to start changing this is to find a non-computer based alternative to relieve boredom because any association with the PC and the internet can easily lead down the path of addiction again.



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