Quadrant of Marriage - FLSM 101
In every relationship, there are rules and guidelines that we have to follow. As for me I have four items to be considered. I call it
Quadrant of Marriage, Faith, Love, Money and Sex (FLSM). These Quadrants must integrate to each other in order to have a successful marriage. Because there is no such as perfect marriage.
Quadrant of Marriage might be one of the key for a happy, successful and Godly marriage.
Faith - whatever is your denomination as long a you believe in the same God. We must place God in the center of our marriage. Some couples preoccupied with their jobs, businesses and socializing. While others rely on their power. They forget their responsibility as a husband or a wife. And most of all they forget to acknowledge God's presence.
Mathew 19: 4-6 "Haven't you read," he replied, "that at the beginning the Creator 'made them male and female,' and said, 'For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh' ? So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate."
Love - Love is blind, love is a many splendor things. Love is a deep affection toward a person. But how can you love your partner? When his or her true color reveals. He eat like a dog and sleep like a hog. She talk like a running train. And her freshness fade away.As the scripture command love one another. For better or worst 'till death we as part.
"4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres." 1Corinthians 13:4-7
Sex- is an intense emotional attachment. As a normal person we have a physical need and pleasure. But it most advisable for married couples to have a healthy sexual relationship. It is where one's completely surrender and trust his or her partner. What make some couples broke-up because lack of intimacy, slow in arousal, rushing or no time for sex.
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Sex is as much spiritual mystery as physical fact. As written in Scripture, "The two become one." Since we want to become spiritually one with the Master, we must not pursue the kind of sex that avoids commitment and intimacy, leaving us more lonely than ever—the kind of sex that can never "become one."1 Corinthians 6:16
Money - in every occasion there is money involve. For a couple at first period of their marriage life there are full of compassion and emotion. They thought that faith, love and sex is everything about marriage. But in the latter time here come the financial issue. Unlike when they were still single. They have their own allowances and go wherever they want to go. Now is the reality of being independent on their own. It is a good idea that one should be a good steward of the money and the other is a great provider. Money can destroy the blessing and marraige if we not manage it in the way of God's will.
From a biblical perspective, money should be gained honestly (Proverbs 28:20), invested carefully (Matthew 25:14-30), spent realistically (Romans 13:8) and shared joyfully (1 Timothy 6:17-19).