Husband for Sell - How Women Select?

Husband for Sell - How Women Select?

A store that sells husbands has just opened in DUBAI , where a woman may go to choose a husband.

Among the instructions at the entrance is a description of how the store operates.

You may visit the store ONLY ONCE!

There are six floors and the attributes of the men increase as the shopper ascends the flights.

There is, however, a catch. ...... You may choose any man from a particular floor, or you may choose to go up a floor, but you cannot go back down except to exit the building!

So, a woman goes to the Husband Store to find a husband...

On the first floor the sign on the door reads:

Floor 1 - These men have jobs and love the Lord.

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The second floor sign reads:

Floor 2 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, and love kids.

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The third floor sign reads:

Floor 3 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love kids, and are extremely good looking.

" Wow," she thinks, but feels compelled to keep going.

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She goes to the fourth floor and sign reads:

Floor 4 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love

kids, are drop- dead good looking and help with the housework.

"Oh, mercy me!" she exclaims, "I can hardly stand it!"

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Still, she goes to the fifth floor and sign reads:

Floor 5 - These men have jobs, love the Lord, love

kids, are drop- dead gorgeous, help with the housework, and have a strong romantic streak.

She is so tempted to stay, but she goes to the sixth floor and the sign reads:

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Floor 6 - You are visitor 4,363,013 to this floor. There are no men on this floor.

This floor exists solely as proof that women are impossible to please.

Thank you for shopping at the Husband Store. Watch your step as you exit the building, and have a nice day!

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re-post author unknown

A Time for Everything

A Time for Everything 

 

Ecclesiastes 3:1-8
 ¹ There is a time for everything,
       and a season for every activity under heaven:
 ² a time to be born and a time to die,
       a time to plant and a time to uproot,
 ³ a time to kill and a time to heal,
       a time to tear down and a time to build,
 ⁴ a time to weep and a time to laugh,
       a time to mourn and a time to dance,
 ⁵ a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
       a time to embrace and a time to refrain,
 ⁶ a time to search and a time to give up,
       a time to keep and a time to throw away,
 ⁷ a time to tear and a time to mend,
       a time to be silent and a time to speak,
 ⁸ a time to love and a time to hate,
       a time for war and a time for peace.

The First Man In My Life

The First Man In My Life

By:MLK

What is a Father?

The definition will depend on each of our story about them. A Father is like my Dad. 80% of his influence and principle in life had marked my personality. I was so much like him in all aspect. Persistence- high aimed-finisher. I have so much memories of time spent with him more than I have with Mom. He used to take me to sleep and be the first one to wake me up in the morning. He kissed me goodnight to sleep and carry me to bed. I remember of faking my sleep just to be carried by him. I just love his arms wrapping my body and feel the security it brings to me. I couldn’t forget how he sings for me before I sleep and during my birthdays. He loves to sing for me and my Mom. My Dad had a good voice and it was a regret of not inheriting that gift from him.

My Dad used to bring me with him in all his construction projects. We slept most in their project site quarters and as young as I am, I have earlier exposure to various building construction. I witnessed the construction of U.P Los Banos, the Lourdes Hospital in Mandaluyong, The Folk Arts Theatre which project was pioneered by the former First Lady. It was built to accommodate the first hosting of Miss Universe Pageant. My dad was one of the hundreds of workers involve in building that landmark. There are many others, the Westin Plaza Hotel, The New World Hotel in Makati, The Twin Tower Makati, The Greenbelt Park which use to house the Quad Cinema, the Makati Square Cinema, Fil-invest Alabang, Gerry's Grill in Greenhills, Chilis and Superbowl etc,. etc.

My Dad experiences with construction projects gave me the nerve to enter university and take Architecture degree. Not much of my liking but more of his desire and dream. Being the eldest of the two siblings, I have ventured out to do his divine will. My Fathers will. My calling to become an Architect is not as much as my Father's calling to have an architect daughter. I gave way because of his strictness and determination that I will be the one to deliver us from poverty.

He succeeded to my amazement and going back to where my family used to be, I could say, we progress better. I used to contradict his agenda. That’s me. I did get it from him, my mom confirmed it. Truly that once you get educated, your intellect by- passes of that our parents level of knowledge. And that’s where the bickering and misunderstanding started. My will or my Dad's will. But my Dad was someone I couldn’t ignore.

He had suffered many sacrificial acts for the good of his family. He travelled so far with great distance from us. For 20 years he was separated from us, working in different places just to make our education fulfilled. After 20 years, I hardly know him. He became a stranger to us. His absence in our childhood days made a bad impact in our growing up. He was able to miss out the very important events and difficulties we have experienced in our adolescence years. He was not there when we graduated from Elementary and High School. He was not there when my brother started to get interested with girls. He was not there when I received my diploma with a degree that he desired long time for me. He was not with us to celebrate those remarkable endings of my school years, my jubilations that I indeed leaped from what I used to be. I have missed him to the most important event in my life.

Of course, he ended up and get tire up being a contract worker. Immediately, after my brother finished his degree, my Dad went home for good. He looked at us like we are his colleagues in Saudi. He takes care of himself more than he takes care of us. His psychological situation deranged him from us. It took us two years to adjust with him and him from us. Mom entered us into a therapy with Dad. We went back to zero.

And how is that? We have to make Dad feel that we are his children. We bring slipper upon his arrival at home. We gave him towel and wipe his back when he perspires. We kissed him goodbye to work and welcome him with a hug after his work. We prepared his dinner and told him stories about our day. We ask for his advice and his approval to things that pertains to our personal problems. It happened in my 21th year. My Dad never asked anything from me when I began working, but Mom insisted us to spend time with him. We have time to go out as a family and treated them over dinner or lunch. I became close again with my Dad and spend much time building our dreams together. Whenever he planned on something, we would have a family meeting. There will be discussions and exchange of ideas. Since, my Dad is a very responsible man, we never question his plan because it is always for the better of us and whatever he plans; we saw it fulfilled.

My admiration and respect for my Dad have grown high that even he didn’t reached my level of education, his wisdom was well acknowledge. He had even bigger salary than us. Enough that even I don’t work, we'll be okay. He had plenty of connection and well-of friends. He was very popular in his work and eventually in our subdivision. My Dad was well-respected by many people in variety.

But one day, He fell and went into sin. Once again, it marked my life with many impacts. I couldn’t follow his footsteps any longer. He lost everything when he followed his own sin. He lost his job, the trust of other people who look upon him, He made a big hole in my umbrella. A hole that stained his integrity and I was the first one to get devastated. There was so much pain and yet I wanted to give him a chance to come back and prove his worth again. I wanted to build bridges so that he could return safely back to us without looking back at the jammed he went through with.

But I'm hoping one day…praying so much that one day.. I will see him back with his normal self. It has been two years now since he fell to the enemy's trap and he is not asking for any help. He doesn’t want my help and even God's grace and mercy. He was totally being complacent to the new world that he was living now. He doesn’t know how much I missed him so much. He doesn’t know that it affected me so much that I lose the sight of the shore with this perfect storm he brought our family in. He used to be the path I am following with, but now I have stopped walking behind him.

The outlook changed the way I looked at marriage. I began to drop all my expectations. The growth started to slow down. He will not be able to read this, I'm sure. But I wanted to tell him, that I couldn’t forget him and that I still love him so much. There were no days and nights that I didn’t cry to God to ask for a miracle; to awaken my Dad from his worst nightmare " Dad, whoever you are with, I have spare a space in my heart for understanding you, though you love them now more than you have loved us, though it cuts like a knife for me and Mom, just don’t forget to take a peek on what we had before as a family.

Bring your memory back to us. Memories I'm keeping dearly within my heart because now it’s the only thing that connects you and me." I missed you so much Daddy. Please find the lost shore for me.
Happy Fathers Day.

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I would like to thank MLK to allow me to share her life story. I hope that one day a house become a home again, in God's perfect time. Let not time and place bewildered our relationship. Let the Lord be the center of our family.

Intimacy in Marriage

Intimacy in Marriage 

I receive and read this this story a couple of times. I believe it is worth to share this to those married couple (like us), plan to get married or not yet married.Please take a moment to continue read this touching story.

Intimacy in Marriage

author unknown

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce.. I raised the topic calmly. She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!

That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her! With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces.

The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning.. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions.. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.. My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed.

So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time.. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.

On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind...I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore. She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead.. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart. That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy.

Do have a real happy marriage! If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you. If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

A Handbook That We Should Have For 2010

A Handbook That We Should Have For 2010

Just got this from my inbox. I believe that it is worth to be our guide for our  daily life. It entitled Handbook 2010. I want to thank to author who composed these great outline. 

Handbook 2010

author: unknown

Health:


1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants..
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
5. Make time to pray.
6. Play more games
7. Read more books than you did in 2009 .
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
9. Sleep for 7 hours..
10. Take a 10-30 minute walk daily. And while you walk, smile.

Personality:


11. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don't over do. Keep your limits.
14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need..
18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with His/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree...

Society:


25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything..
28. Spend time w/ people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:


32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. GOD heals everything.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change..
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come..
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.








life is worth living for...

But the Greatest of These is Love

But the Greatest of These is Love

1 Corinthians 13

1 If I speak in human or angelic tongues, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body [to hardship] that I may boast,  but do not have love, I gain nothing. .

4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love.

But the greatest of these is love.

Don't Carry The Weight

Don't Carry The Weight

Don't carry the weight upon your shoulder. 

He will be there to carry you!

"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest."
Matthew 11:28

Taken at the Bahrain bridge in Al Khobar.

Kulungan na Walang Rehas Sa Gitnang Silangan

Kulungan na Walang Rehas Sa Gitnang Silangan

Life Story: By Bobot P. Erpelo – Jan 6, 2010 – SA)

Nitong Abril 2009 ay dinayo ko ang (SA) dito sa Gitnang Silangan. Dito nadestino ang aking asawa matapos ang ilang taon na pagtatrabaho sa Bahrain. Kasama ko ang aking bunsong anak na si EJ noong mga panahong iyon. Inabot din kami ng isang buwang bakasyon para samahan ang aking asawa.

Habang naririto ako, unti-unti kong naramdaman ang buhay na masasabi kong ‘mahirap.’

Taong 1991, dinala kami ng aking asawa sa Bahrain kasama ang aming tatlong anak. Anim na taong gulang palang ang aming panganay, apat na taon ang pangalawa, at isang-taong gulang ang pangatlo. Doon na sila nag-aral mula ‘grade school’ hanggang hayskul. Doon ko na rin isinilang ang aming pang-apat na anak na si EJ.

Masasabi ko na ang buhay sa Bahrain ay napakagaan. Masaya lalo na kapag kasama mo ang pamilya at mga kapatiran. Sampung taon din kaming namalagi doon. Nang mag-kolehiyo na ang aming panganay at pangalawa ay napagdesisyunan naming mag-iina na sa Pilipinas nalang mamalagi. Noong mga panahong iyon ay nailipat ang aking asawa mula Bahrain patungong SA.

Naikumpara ko ang buhay sa Bahrain at estilo ng pamumuhay sa SA.

Sa Bahrain, ano mang oras ay pwede akong lumabas o mamasyal kasama ang aking mga anak. Dito sa SA ay hindi basta-basta pwedeng lumabas lalo na kung nag-iisa ka lang. Kailangan na palagi mong kasama ang iyong asawa at laging bitbit ang mga papeles bilang katibayan na ‘legal’ ang pag-aasawa niyo para sa ano mang biglaang pag-iinspeksyon.

Sa Bahrain ay pwede kang magsuot ng kahit anong ‘casual’ na damit. Dito sa SA ay kailangang naka- abaya ang mga babae tuwing lalabas.

Kung ikaw ay isang ‘dependent’, buong araw kang nasa loob lang ng bahay. Makakalabas ka lang kung dumating na ang iyong asawa. Minsan ay ‘di ka pa rin makalabas dahil mula sa trabaho ay pagod na rin ang iyong asawa kaya mas nanaisin pa niyang magpahinga.

Sa pangalawang pagbabalik ko sa SA nitong October 8, 2009 ay mag-isa nalang akong naglakbay at naiwan na ang aming bunso sa Pilipinas. Naramdaman ko ang kalungkutan na kailanma’y hindi ko pa nararamdaman sa buong buhay ko… sa Bahrain man o maging sa Pilipinas.

May mga oras na sa aking pag-iisa (habang ako ay kumakain) ay bigla nalang akong napapaluha. Naaalala ko ang aking mga anak na naiwan ko sa Pilipinas. Sabi ko sa sarili ko, “Bakit ka umiiyak? ‘Di ba gusto mong samahan ang iyong asawa?”

Dito ko biglang naisip, “Paano pa kaya ang aking asawa noong mga panahong siya lang ang naririto sa SA… at nag-iisa?

Ipinadama sa akin ng Panginoon kung ano ang nararamdaman ng mga taong nakatira sa lugar na ito.
Nasabi ko tuloy sa sarili ko na kung ako nga na may Panginoon na tinatawag ay nakakaranas pa rin ng ganitong lungkot… paano pa kaya ang ating mga kababayang wala pang relasyon sa ating Panginoon?

Dito ko na naisip na mas mahirap ang kanilang kalagayan dahil marami sa kanila ang talagang hindi makalabas ng bahay… lalo na ang mga domestic helper. Kapag nakikita ko sila sa mall kasama ang kanilang mga amo, bakas sa kanilang mukha ang matinding pananabik tuwing nakakakita sila ng kababayan!

Lalong nagsikip ang dibdib ko nang makita ko sila… at sinabi ko sa aking sarili na mas mapalad pa rin ako dahil kasama ko ang asawa ko…

Kung gaano ako nalulungkot ay mas doble pa ang kanilang nararamdaman dahil ‘total strangers’ ang kanilang mga kasama sa bahay (mga locals dito sa lugar na ito). Masuwerte kung sila ay nakahanap ng mabait at maunawain na amo… pero paano nalang kung ang amo nila ay tulad ng mga sinasabi ng iba na malulupit at mapang-abuso? Naisip ko na ito na rin siguro ang dahilan kung bakit nawawala na sa sarili ang ilan… sanhi ng lungkot na hindi nila makayanan. (‘Wag naman pong mangyari ito sa akin… sa grasya ng Panginoon.)

Tanong ko… sa isip ko… “Paano na pala sila? Ano na kaya ang nangyayari sa kanila? Kumakain kaya sila ng tatlong beses sa isang araw?” Maraming bagay ang naglalaro sa aking isipan. Paano ko sila maaabot o matutulungan? Biglang ipinaisip lang ng Panginoon sa akin ang manalangin at isama sila sa bawat panalangin ko habang ako’y naririto sa lupain ng mga taga-SA.

Sa araw-araw na lumipas ay unti-unting napapawi ang aking kalungkutan dahil sa dami ng aking dapat ipanalangin. Halos buong oras ko ay nabubuhos sa panalangin. Matapos nito ay magbubukas ako ng computer para mag-surf sa internet at bisitahin ang aking mga kaibigan sa facebook. Napakapalad ko pa rin talaga dahil kahit maghapon akong nakakulong sa bahay ay may ‘access’ pa rin ako sa mga mahal ko sa buhay, mga kapatiran, at mga kaibigang nasa iba’t-ibang sulok ng mundo. Sa pamamagitan ng pakikipag-ugnayan sa kanila, nae-express ko ang aking sarili.

Napakaimportante ang ‘constant communication’ dahil ito lang ang pwedeng gawin habang naririto ka sa ganitong lugar. Marami siguro sa atin ang may mga pamilya at kapatid sa Gitnang Silangan o kung saan mang panig ng mundo. Ito’y isang panawagan… na kung maari lamang ay gawin ninyong ‘regular’ ang pakikipag-usap o ugnayan sa kanila. Iba po talaga ang nararanasan kapag malayo sa pamilya.

Sa sobrang lungkot ko po dito ay nakagawa ako ng isang tula… na ibabahagi ko sa inyo. Ang pamagat ay, “Si Juan… ang Pinoy.”

Nawa po any maging halimbawa ang aking karanasan sa bawat isa sa inyo. Nakita ko po rito… na kung wala sa ating puso ang ating Panginoon… maaaring hindi ko ito makakayanan nang ako lang. Sa araw -araw ay Siya lang talaga ang aking kalakasan. Sa Kanya ako kumukuha ng karunungan upang gawin ang mga bagay na dapat kong gawin sa araw-araw. Purihin ang Panginoon dahil dito ko rin nailabas ang mga ibinigay Niyang talento sa akin.

Sa pamamagitan ng aking pagsusulat… ito’y nagsilbing paraan para makapag-encourage pa rin ako ng ibang tao… kahit na minsan ay ako mismo ang nangangailangan nito.

Dito ko rin naranasan ang maghintay… na ma-exercise ko ang paghihintay… tulad ng paghihintay natin sa pagdating ng ating Panginoon…

Wala tayong pwedeng sabihin na dahilan kung bakit ‘di natin nararanasan ang Kanyang kabutihan. Sa mga pagsubok… lahat ay ating makakayanan kung tayo ay magtitiwala lamang sa Kanya. Matuto tayong makinig at gawin ang mga ipinag-uutos Niya.

Masasabi kong nanaisin ko pa ring bumalik sa lugar na tulad nito kung ang kapalit naman ay walang hanggang pakikipag-ugnayan sa aking Diyos na Siyang nagbibigay ng lakas, aral, at kulay sa aking buhay.

Gusto ko lang ibahagi sa inyo ang kabutihan ng ating Panginoon.

Sa mga taong may mga kamag-anak, asawa, o kaibigan na malayo sa inyo… hayaan ninyong maging pagpapala kayo sa kanila. Bigyan ninyo ng oras at panahon ang pakikipag-ugnayan sa kanila.
Isang sakripisyo na sa inyo ay inalay…

Nawa ay kapulutan n’yo ng aral ang aking mga naging karanasan habang ako’y naririto sa Gitnang Silangan sa SA.
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Maraming salamat po sa inyong oras at panahon para sa pagbabasa’t pakikinig.

I Need Help for My Restaurant City!

I Need Help for My Restaurant City!

Yes you read it right! I need help for my Restaurant City. One of my favorite games in Facebook is Restaurant City. Not because of bumabalik ako sa pagkabata, but dito ko nakakabonding ang mga anak ko. Kahit ha na virtually. Back to my problem. To those who are Restaurant City fanatics. If you check with the image, my three employees is not working at all. Is their any tips. Please help!

Actually this is not for me but for my little lovely Angel. Due to the storm Ondoy our internet connection is still disconnected. So to cope up with the points and level of the games I try to work for her Restaurant city and other games in Facebook.

Akala ko sa totoong buhay lang ang meron "pumepetiks" na empleyado. Pati pala sa virtual game. Naging mabait naman ako sa kanila. I fed them when they are hungry and I give them a day off when they are tired. Saan ba ako nagkamali? Hindi naman ako naging malupit sa kanila. Bakit sila nagwewelga? So mga KABLOGS,kapuso and kapamilya give me some advice.

Well it just a game. But what are the lessons we can learn from it in real life.
For the employers: They should take care of their employees so that the employees will take care of their business.
For the Employees: They should work hard so that the employers will take care of their lives.

Words Of Wisdom

Slaves, obey your earthly masters with respect and fear, and with sincerity of heart, just as you would obey Christ. Obey them not only to win their favor when their eye is on you, but like slaves of Christ, doing the will of God from your heart. Serve wholeheartedly, as if you were serving the Lord, not men, because you know that the Lord will reward everyone for whatever good he does, whether he is slave or free. And masters, treat your slaves in the same way. Do not threaten them, since you know that he who is both their Master and yours is in heaven, and there is no favoritism with him.

Ephesians 6:5-9

Your Child Safety Tips oN Halloween

Your Child Safety Tips oN Halloween

This is a repost from a mom's choice. Safety tips for our children during this Halloween.

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Keeping your kids safe is no different on Halloween then any other day of the year. While your trick or treating with your kids it's easy to put your guard down. Halloween seems to bring out a lot of tricksters who get caught up in the moment and don’t think with their head.



Here are some suggestions on how to keep your kids safe during Halloween.

* Don't let your children go trick or treating alone.
* Walk up to the door with your kids.
* Carry a flashlight with you.
* Wear reflective clothing
* Try to wear make up instead of a mask, they obstruct the child's view.
* Don't wear a mask while you’re walking down the street with your child.
* Be aware of your surroundings, its easy to get distracted.
* Check your child's candy before they eat any of it.
* Check with the local hospital to see if they offer to x-ray your child's candy.
* Check where the sex offenders live in the area where your child is trick r treating and stay away from those homes. Individual states have a registry too, look for sex offender registry in your state.
* Go to a mall to trick r treating instead of going door to door.
* Participate in an alternative to Halloween such as a church function or friend's party
* Only go up to door where a porch light is on.
* Don't let your kids answer the door when your not home.
* Walk towards the traffic if you have to walk on the street.
* Make sure you know where your child is and what they are doing at all times.
* Be aware of the route your child is taking, if you’re not going with them.
* Remind your kids not to get into the cars of people they don't know.
* Make sure the mask on the costume doesn't obstruct your child's line of vision.
* Be careful who you answer the door to during the trick r treating.

Have a Happy Halloween it's better to be safe.

10 Lessons Learned from FarmVille - Face Book

10 Lessons Learned from FarmVille - Face Book

by Fr. Stephen

FarmVille is a Facebook game which allows members of the popular social network to plant, grow and harvest fruits and vegetables as well as raise animals on one’s virtual farm.

I only started playing FarmVille five days ago and, as of this writing, I am now at level 14 with 45,431 coins and 4248 XP. You can say that I am a dedicated farmer. Most of the animals and trees I own are gifts from fellow farmers. The more I play FarmVille the more I enjoy the real-time flash game. One time I had to reschedule my dinner to harvest my crops on time.

Here are ten lessons I learned while tending my virtual farm.


1. Growth takes time, effort, and lots of patience. You cannot hurry the crops. Or make your cows produce milk in seconds. Growth is neither sudden nor easy. It is a process which requires that one step be completed successfully before proceeding to the next.

2. There are always elements that will try to stifle your growth. In FarmVille you have to deal with leaves, weeds, and crows. I real life you have to deal with difficult situations and people who discourage you and try to pull you down.

3. But don’t worry about leaves, weed, and crows – your neighbors will always come to your aid. Look around, you are never alone. Believe in the goodness of others.

4. Helping others clean up leaves, scare off crows, or kill weeds not only give you extra coins and XP but also make you a better neighbor. Whenever I receive messages like this – “Hiya, Fr.! Just look at these leaves! Would you help me rake them up?” I always click “yes”. My main motive is not to gain more coins and XP but to return the favor to people who have also helped me keep my own farm clean and healthy.

5. The more gifts you give, the more gifts you receive.
This is true in FarmVille. This is also true in real life. It was Orison Swett Marden who said “We must give more in order to get more. It is the generous giving of ourselves that produces the generous harvest.”

6. If you don’t harvest on time, your plants will wither. Just as in FarmVille, to succeed in real life you have to do the right thing at the right time.

7. You can share your triumphs with others. In Farmville you can share your rewards in the form of bonuses. I know of some people who regularly check their Facebook feeds to see if any of their friends have recently won any ribbons. For there they will find the option to earn a bonus from them. The better the ribbon the more coins you will get.

8. You need to work hard to get what you want and need. Aside from plowing, planting and harvesting and dealing with leaves, weeds and crows, you also have to budget your time and coins. You also need to buy the right seeds, trees and animals for optimum profit. Believe me, it can be complicated. If you want to succeed in FarmVille you have to work hard. If you want to succeed in life you have to work harder. As David Bly puts it – “Striving for success without hard work is like trying to harvest where you haven’t planted.”

9. You do not become a Good Samaritan through a single act of kindness. You need to help other farmers hundreds of times before earning your Good Samaritan ribbon. In the same way, you do not become a good person just by doing one single act of goodness. You need to be a good person, a “good samaritan” repeatedly and consistently.

10. After a harvest there must plowing and sowing again. Such is life. The end of something is the beginning of another one. And I hope that as you complete one step in your life may you begin the next one as a person who has matured and learned his lessons. Always do your best. What you plant now, you will harvest later.

Storm Ondoy (Ketsana) Out – Super Typhoon Peping (Parma) In

Storm Ondoy (Ketsana) Out – Super Typhoon Peping (Parma) In

After the devastation of storm Ondoy left behind in the Philippines, another Super Typhoon that is in the Philippines territory. Peping (Parma is an international code name) have maximum winds of 195 kilometers per hour and gusts of up to 230 kph, according to the weather bureau.




As of Friday afternoon, Philippines Atmospheric, Geophysical and Astronomical Services (PAGASA) declared Storm signal number 3 over the Catanduanes province. In preparation for the storm, residents are advice to leave their homes and go to the evacuation centers.

Meanwhile, evacuees from different evacuation centers in Luzon and Visaya are afraid to return to their home because of the trauma brought by storm Ondoy. Where death toll reached up to 293 and thousand homes have been destroyed.

The National Disaster Coordinating Council declares the entire Philippines under a state of calamity. The reasons for the declaration are:

1.Forecast of the monsoon may effect in the whole country
2.Allow the Department of Trade and Industry to maintain price ceiling on commodities

The typhoon is expected to landfall in Aurora on Saturday morning and cross northern Luzon.

Let us pray to the Lord that this storm will leave the Philippines territory.
And may it weakens as it going to the Northern Luzon.

Miracles happen when we believe.

Source ABS-CBN , Youtube

72 Hours Calamities Survival Kits

72 Hours Calamities Survival Kits

It is important to be prepared when calamity strikes. Here are the things that we have to set aside at least for 72 hours.

1. First Aid Kits
2. Whistle - in case you can't be heard
3. Drinking water
4. Multipurpose Tools
5. Quick Release can goods
6. Rope
7. Cloths
8. Transistor Radio - to be updated with latest advisory & news
9. Rice
10. Flash Light - with extra batteries, but don't put them a flash light yet
11. Lighter
12. Playing Card - to overcome stress during in evacuation center
13. Candies - to neutralize the sugar level in our body
14. Small Mirror - to send signal for help from a distance
15. Bagged Documents - safe your important documents
16. Bagged Cell Phone - for communication purposes
17. Plastic Container - Keep all your kits in this container

Be safe! Always seek God protection.

'If calamity comes upon us, whether the sword of judgment, or plague or famine,
we will stand in your presence before this temple that bears your
Name and will cry out to you in our distress,
and you will hear us and save us.'

(2 Chronicles 20:9)

Climate Change in Coastal Area - Philippines

Climate Change in Coastal Area - Philippines

In connection to my previous post about a 13 years old Severn Cullis-Suzuki's speech for the Earth Summit in 1992. Here is another educational info about a climate change. Please bare with me if the language is in Tagalog (Filipino Dialect). The English sub-title will enhance your viewing. This video is brought to you by Norway Government and World Bank for the effect of Climate Change in the Philippines Coastal area.




"This 15 minute video is part of a larger effort to raise awareness and build capacity on climate change impacts among coastal communities in the Philippines. The video is the result of work undertaken jointly by World Bank staff in the Philippines, local communities and other national stakeholders." as mentioned by worldbank youtube user.

I believe that this video is not only for the Philippines but for the whole world as well. Let us help to rebuild our mother earth. This is our home.

How To Handle Love

How To Handle Love
by Swami Vivekananda

image by cap

I once had a friend who grew to be very close to me. Once when we were
sitting at the edge of a swimming pool, she filled the palm of her hand with
some water and held it before me, and said this:
"You see this water carefully contained on my hand? It symbolizes Love."



This was how I saw it: As long as you keep your hand caringly open and allow
it to remain there, it will always be there. However, if you attempt to
close your fingers round it and try to posses it, it will spill through the
first cracks it finds.

This is the greatest mistake that people do when they meet love...they try
to posses it, they demand, they expect... and just like the water spilling
out of your hand, love will retrieve from you .

For love is meant to be free, you cannot change its nature. If there are
people you love, allow them to be free beings.

Give and don't expect.
Advise, but don't order.
Ask, but never demand.

It might sound simple, but it is a lesson that may take a lifetime to truly
practice. It is the secret to true love. To truly practice it, you must
sincerely feel no expectations from those who you love, and yet an
unconditional caring."

Passing thought... Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take;
but by the moments that take our breath away.....

Life is beautiful!!! Live it !!!

The Power of Negative Thinking

The Power of Negative Thinking
by fin2000

Before you attempt to banish a bad thought, consider what it could teach you. Negative emotions can help you pinpoint problems you need to address. What follows are three major types of negative thinking - and how you can use them for good.


Feelings of Inadequacy

Recognize it: I suck at my job. I don't have any good ideas. It's just a matter of time before I'm fired.

Overcome it: Maybe you do suck - at certain tasks. Sometimes our negative thoughts are true, but don't accept that until you look critically at the evidence. Some people excel in group meetings, while others shine when they work alone. Figure out which environment suits you better. Still struggling? Maybe you and your job are simply a poor match. Find another job - quickly. Researchers at the University of Texas found that negative employees stick around in dead-end jobs longer than their confident colleagues do.

General Pessimism

Recognize it: I'm going to be late for my flight and miss the meeting. There goes the account. There goes my year-end bonus. My wife is probably going to leave me.

Overcome it: Don't deny your worst-case-scenario thoughts, but focus on specific things you do have control over. This will help keep your anxiety from spiraling out of control. It might also extend your life: research in the journal Psychological Medicine linked high levels of anxiety in your twenties to higher rates of death from illness later in life.

Self-Esteem Issues

Recognize it: The brunette at the bar didn't return my smile. She's ignoring me like every other girl. Oh, God, I must be hideous.

Overcome it: Once you start generalizing your problems, it's hard to stop. When you feel a sense of heaviness in your body, focus on what just went through your mind. Then stop the cycle by breaking the problem into manageable pieces: did she even see me? Is that a ring on her finger? Do I have snot hanging from my nose? If you look at the situation in this way, you won't become overwhelmed so easily.



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Ego Defense Mechanisms

Ego Defense Mechanisms

Author: M.Farouk Radwan

What Are Ego Defense Mechanisms? When you accidentally injure yourself, your body automatically begins several self healing processes, aiming to restore your body to its original healthy state. But what if you're emotionally hurt? What if you face a sudden shock or a tremendous amount of stress? What if your anxiety becomes more than you can handle? What if you lose a dear one?

Just like how your body has defenses against physical wounds and injuries, it has its defenses against emotional shocks and wounds; they're called "Ego Defense Mechanisms" or "Unconscious Defense Mechanisms". Ego Defense Mechanisms: The following is an explanation of each of the ego defense mechanisms:

* Denial: Denial is refusing to acknowledge the presence of the threat or the occurrence of the unpleasant event. Examples of denial would be refusing to acknowledge the death of a person, questioning the qualifications of the doctor who diagnosed the disease or going like: "Madness? This is Sparta!!" when threatened by a very large armyJ . The problem with denial is that it blocks the road to acceptance; you won't be able to get over that event until you first accept it.

* Displacement: Displacement is transferring or discharging your emotions on a less threatening object. For example, shouting at your children or having a fight with your neighbor right after your boss shouts at you means that you are angry at your boss but taking it out on your kids. If your displacement ego defense mechanism gets fired, try to control yourself a bit and then work on identifying your real enemy. Don't attack innocent people just because someone you can't harm has emotionally hurt you.

* Repression: Repression is the complete memory loss of a painful event. In this case, your subconscious mind doesn't want you to remember what happened because it may negatively affect your mood.

* Projection: Projection is placing blame for the unwanted event upon others. Examples would be saying that you failed an exam because the teacher is racist.

* Rationalization: Rationalization is the act of rationalizing your wrong actions and creating a self serving explanation for what you did. Saying "I have the right to cheat on the exam because the lessons weren't well explained" is a basic example of rationalization.

* Sublimation: Sublimation is satisfying your socially unacceptable needs in a socially accepted way. So, by becoming a boxer you are able to satisfy your hidden need for violence.

* Regression: Regression is returning to a previous state of development. Crying instead of taking actions to solve your problems means you have returned to the stage of childhood. * Identification: By identifying with something or someone else you can increase your sense of ego and self-worth. Saying that a famous singer is a friend of yours might make you admired and so cause you to feel better about your other problems. * Undoing: This means trying to fix your mistake, like sending a SMS to apologize to a friend you've recently had a fight with.

* Fantasy: It's pretty much self-explanatory. Imagining yourself beating up your boss with a chair after he's shouted at you is you fantasizing to help make you feel better.

* Reaction Formation: This behavior has you taking actions that are the opposite of your real desires, like for example greeting one of your enemies warmly just to show that you don't hate him.

* Humor: Looking at the funny side of a situation can help you forget about the real problem.

* Compensation: Hiding your weaknesses by acting as a beacon of strength; saying something like "I'm never scared" after watching a horror movie.

* Affiliation: Affiliation is to seek another's help in getting over your problem.

* Suppression: In this case, you avoid thinking about that unwanted event.

* Dissociation: Dissociating yourself from reality and thinking that this is not happening to you is one of the means of emotional defense.

So, Are Ego Defense Mechanisms Effective? Sometimes they are healthy and sometimes not. Some of them can help you, while others can make the problem even worse; whenever possible, try to consciously detect the presence of the defense mechanism and see if it is really beneficial. If you find that it is not, then try to avoid it and maybe alter it to your benefit.

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